Which heels?

Hello High Heelers,

Decisions, decisions. Decisions are funny things. Some are so simple to make, like whether to wear jeans on a chilly day, or a frivolous frock. Others are really hard, like leaving the precious partner you adore but know is not destined to share forever with you, or ending a stable career to chase a dream that will undoubtedly lead to uncertainly and instability. I don’t know about you, but my world has recently been loaded with difficult decisions and my friends have also been sending conundrum after conundrum from every direction, looking for sound advice. It feels as though people around me are suddenly searching for a greater level of happiness and meaning. The age old (clichéd) question is popping up all over the place – what is the meaning of life? Indeed, what is it?

Well, as Douglas Adams wrote in ‘The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy’, that the answer to the ultimate question of life, the universe, and everything is 42. Uh, ok. 42 what? As matter-of-factly silly as this answer is, perhaps that’s the point. We spend so much time overthinking things – I am definitely guilty in this area. You know, perhaps decisions and answers are far simpler than we realise. Just maybe, we need to start cutting out the noise, the clutter, the fear and the ‘can’ts’ and start focussing on the actual question. I’m not saying ignore the risk – if you step into a fire, you’re going to burn (I promise!) What I am saying though, is that we often spend so much time creating reasons for not doing the hard thing that we know is right, instead of looking at the reasons why we should go ahead and take a calculated risk. Note: calculated risk.

My favourite poem of all time is Robert Frost’s ‘The Road Not Taken’. That Mr. Frost was a clever guy. It reminds me that the right decision for you, isn’t always the accepted choice (what others would do), and that it will usually come with uncertainty and a good measure of angst. But for the most part, when you take the road not taken, it will make all the difference. What a wonderful word that is ‘difference.’ We all want to make a difference, right? We want to find the thing we can do that will make the world a better place than we found it. But so often we get side-tracked from discovering our purpose, by a million feelings of inadequacy, heaps of insecurity and a good measure of lack of faith in ourselves. We become our own barrier to a life filled with more meaning and greater purpose.

This week one of my besties started a training course that will lead her career in a completely different direction. She’s been ignoring the desire to follow her heart for so long and eventually she ran into all the right opportunities. After day one, things are going swimmingly. She’s had all the affirmation she needs to confirm that she’s done the right thing – though the path will surely have some twists and turns along the way. Another special lady in my world left a lover that was not treating her properly. She put the fear aside, ignored the risk of ‘not being looked after’ anymore and jumped into singledom, head first. And guess what? She too is surviving. She may not be swimming yet, but she’s floating and hoping for a better day as everything she needs has slowly presented itself to her – in terms of work, a home, a stable circle of caring friends… and so it shall continue.

When you make the right decisions, your path opens up with a multitude of opportunities, though the journey isn’t necessarily going to be easy. Sure, some decisions are really hard to make. Often those are the ones that rub the back of your brain irritatingly, causing irritating little blisters that just won’t go away. You cannot ignore them. They are linked to your purpose. Your happiness. Your future. Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s wrong. What’s meant to be will always find a way. But the action needs to come from you. You need to make it happen. You need to take the leap. It’s up to you to take what’s yours.

This week as we pull on our heels and step up to some tough decision making, let’s remember to be brave. You are stronger than you think. You are wiser than you know. And you’ll only realise your true potential when you step out of your comfort zone and into the place where you’re stretched to a new level of you.

Have a wonderful week.

Yours in heels,
Jo

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