Hello High Heelers,
Your support over the past few weeks has been phenomenal. High Heelers really do stand together. Thank you! I’ve had the ladies commiserating, sharing their stories, softening the blow and passing the tissues. There’s no gift quite like a special piece of another woman’s soul when yours is battered. Let me not leave out the ‘flat-shoed-ones’ – you guys have been solid, strong and kind in your reinforcement that there are many out there who know how to give the word ‘man’ deep meaning, strength and beauty. You remind us bruised ones, that we are destined to heal-up, stand up and match up when the time is right.
This Sunday morning, I watched a friend’s little daughter learn an experiential lesson that will hopefully remain a lifetime lesson. Crawling on the kitchen floor, she reached for the oven door. She did so a few times and was repeatedly warned not to. But she continued. Finally, her dad watched her carefully as she reached out for the very warm, but not hot (he was letting her discover gently!) oven door. She touched it and quickly pulled her hand back in surprise and began to howl from shock. He quickly picked her up and covered her with hugs and kisses so she knew she was ok. She stayed far away from the oven for the rest of the day. Lesson learnt.
So what have I learnt from the last few weeks of being burnt? Well, I’ve learnt a few lifelong lessons that may, or may not, be useful to other High Heelers. Here goes…I’ve learnt that some people are deceitful for no comprehensive reason at all – they just are. You did not cause it, you did not do anything wrong to be wronged. It is what it is. I’ve learnt that people will hurt others simply because they have deep set personal pain and they gain momentary relief through their transgressions. If you cross their path, you’re collateral damage – nothing more, nothing less. You do not own blame and you will not find any logical reasoning for it – do not search, you will only find unfulfilment.
I’ve learnt that you should trust people based on their behaviour – not on their words. Words can slip off the tongue as easily as a skater glides on ice, but behaviour takes effort, decisive work and repetitive action. I’ve learnt that if actions and words do not agree that there is a need for questions to be asked and reasonable answers should be expected. I’ve learnt that there is a place for anger and hurt. From hurt we learn not to make the same mistakes again. From anger, we understand ourselves better, reset our boundaries and reinforce our values. When someone acts against our expectations, anger forces us to recognise it. But don’t let the anger simmer. Use it for your healing and then remove it from your being with any force necessary. I’ve learnt that the most valuable lessons often cost the most – emotionally, physically, time-wise and in patience. I’ve learnt that good friends will support you through hard times and will fill your heart with giggles when it’s really filled with tears.
I’ve learnt that I am stronger than I ever imagined. That I have amazing friends. Awesome colleagues. The most supportive family. That I have the power to rebuild greater dreams than the ones that are broken. And that I have a destiny so lovely than nothing can dampen its desire to grow bigger than me. I’ve learnt to be me a little better, and to love myself a little more. I’ve learnt that pain is inevitable, lessons are necessary, and that healing needs to happen, but it doesn’t need a lifetime, just the right time. This is my time. Thank you for sharing it with me.
Despite all of this I know that I will remain true to me. I know that I will trust without fear again. I know that I will love without hesitation one day and I know that I will be genuinely loved without tainted intentions. I know these things because I know that within the ‘unfairness’ of life, there is justice that is real and that I have the power to determine my own future.
As I walk into my new dreams, walk with me. Let’s do this together. Truly. Retweet, share, ‘like’ and email this message out. Let’s walk together through the tough stuff so we can stand together in life.
Til next week… yours in heeels,
Jo
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This Sunday morning, I watched a friend’s little daughter learn an experiential lesson that will hopefully remain a lifetime lesson. Crawling on the kitchen floor, she reached for the oven door. She did so a few times and was repeatedly warned not to. But she continued. Finally, her dad watched her carefully as she reached out for the very warm, but not hot (he was letting her discover gently!) oven door. She touched it and quickly pulled her hand back in surprise and began to howl from shock. He quickly picked her up and covered her with hugs and kisses so she knew she was ok. She stayed far away from the oven for the rest of the day. Lesson learnt.
So what have I learnt from the last few weeks of being burnt? Well, I’ve learnt a few lifelong lessons that may, or may not, be useful to other High Heelers. Here goes…I’ve learnt that some people are deceitful for no comprehensive reason at all – they just are. You did not cause it, you did not do anything wrong to be wronged. It is what it is. I’ve learnt that people will hurt others simply because they have deep set personal pain and they gain momentary relief through their transgressions. If you cross their path, you’re collateral damage – nothing more, nothing less. You do not own blame and you will not find any logical reasoning for it – do not search, you will only find unfulfilment.
I’ve learnt that you should trust people based on their behaviour – not on their words. Words can slip off the tongue as easily as a skater glides on ice, but behaviour takes effort, decisive work and repetitive action. I’ve learnt that if actions and words do not agree that there is a need for questions to be asked and reasonable answers should be expected. I’ve learnt that there is a place for anger and hurt. From hurt we learn not to make the same mistakes again. From anger, we understand ourselves better, reset our boundaries and reinforce our values. When someone acts against our expectations, anger forces us to recognise it. But don’t let the anger simmer. Use it for your healing and then remove it from your being with any force necessary. I’ve learnt that the most valuable lessons often cost the most – emotionally, physically, time-wise and in patience. I’ve learnt that good friends will support you through hard times and will fill your heart with giggles when it’s really filled with tears.
I’ve learnt that I am stronger than I ever imagined. That I have amazing friends. Awesome colleagues. The most supportive family. That I have the power to rebuild greater dreams than the ones that are broken. And that I have a destiny so lovely than nothing can dampen its desire to grow bigger than me. I’ve learnt to be me a little better, and to love myself a little more. I’ve learnt that pain is inevitable, lessons are necessary, and that healing needs to happen, but it doesn’t need a lifetime, just the right time. This is my time. Thank you for sharing it with me.
Despite all of this I know that I will remain true to me. I know that I will trust without fear again. I know that I will love without hesitation one day and I know that I will be genuinely loved without tainted intentions. I know these things because I know that within the ‘unfairness’ of life, there is justice that is real and that I have the power to determine my own future.
As I walk into my new dreams, walk with me. Let’s do this together. Truly. Retweet, share, ‘like’ and email this message out. Let’s walk together through the tough stuff so we can stand together in life.
Til next week… yours in heeels,
Jo
Don't forget to LIKE our FaceBook page - http://www.facebook.com/pages/High-Heelers/193781660675079
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Hey! It's me! Ash! You can follow my blog now. So great to see you on Sunday. Thank you for coming. Strength and love to you.
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