Letting the Hair Down

Hello High Heelers

If forty is the new twenty, then I think thirty is the new sixteen. Mainly, because I have digressed in maturity in my thirties – rapidly! I can proudly say that I have been behaving like a teenager over the past few days – only with a nicer car, higher heels, more cash flow, greater debt and a longer list of responsibilities.

This weekend, I decided to not run any house chores (ok, with ONE small exception), I said ‘yes’ to all invitations, I was as lazy as possible, had an opinion about everything and I dressed like a teenager at every possible opportunity (short, frivolous skirts and the lot). I also let down my hair and clipped up my fringe which made me look rather care-free, thereby somehow making me feel rather like a hippy (which could have also been the silly skirts). Those of you who read my post last week, would remember that I was rather miserable and needed a little lift. Enter this weekend… this wonderful, wonderful ‘letting go’ weekend!

When you’re going through tough times they just seem to escalate and gain momentum. So you need to break the flow, find the fun, let your hair down and remember who you are. If you don’t break it, it has the potential to break you. Have you ever noticed that when you’re having a bad day and you grab hold of that negative, whiney colleague to vent your frustrations, that you end up getting more annoyed? It’s not healthy, it just feeds your frustration as they hand you their load as well. So, in my view, you have two choices, you can either find a good colleague, who will be honest but positive, who will grow you and stretch you while breaking your negativity. Or, you can shake yourself up, paint the lips red and step out in your happy feet with hot heels. Picking positivity makes all the difference.

For instance, amidst my serious self-pity last week my boss, Natalie Maroun, sent me a beautiful quote by Arthur Golden that went like this: “Adversity is like a strong wind, it tears all from us, but the things that cannot be torn. So we see ourselves as we truly are.” I found that so poignant. It gave meaning to why I was feeling a little torn and worn. When we go through hard times, we are shaken, we lose our leaves but we come out knowing where our roots are, what’s deeply important and what keeps us standing. It’s not a nice feeling, but it helps us focus on where we need to strengthen our connections and ground ourselves. In our ‘High Heelers’ language, adversity shows us where we stand tall, where we fall and where we need to dig our heels in deeper.

So when you experience tough things this week, remember to keep focussed on the positive. Stay away from negative people. Get in touch with your values, your character and all those things that make you, you. Because you were made to stand tall through good times and bad times.

Have a wonderful week!

Cheers,
Jo

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